"Love is such a powerful human emotion that it easily turns into obsession – particularly destructive behavior when a rival stands between you and your fixation," says professor and pastor, Anthony Selvaggio
Contact: Grant Van Leuven, Reformed Presbyterian Theological Seminary, 866-778-7338, 412-716-9051 cell, firstname.lastname@example.org; Rev. Selvaggio available for interview
PITTSBURGH, Feb. 6 /Christian Newswire/ -- "Love is such a powerful human emotion that it easily turns into obsession – particularly destructive behavior when a rival stands between you and your fixation," says professor and pastor, Anthony Selvaggio.
Selvaggio is available for interviews about the dangers and phenomena of love triangles, and how to avoid them, in light of today's "NASA love triangle" and attempted kidnap breaking news out of Orlando.
Selvaggio, an adjunct professor at the Reformed Presbyterian Theological Seminary in Pittsburgh, has this advice on love triangles from his just released marriage book:
Perils of the "Bermuda Love Triangle"
Love triangles are created when a married couple allows a third party to intrude into their relationship. Such third parties include:
- Work. When he practiced law, he often heard the saying, "The law is a jealous mistress." Work can quickly become the "other woman" in a marriage, as can workplace relationships.
- An emotional love triangle with another person that can be just as devastating as a sexual love triangle.
- An adulterous affair.
- Pornography, which makes another person a rival to your spouse.
- Ministry or a calling can become a rival to your spouse.
- Family or friends begin to exert so much influence in a marriage that they undermine marital communication and trust.
- Recreation: placing leisure time above the needs of the spouse.
- Children, when they become the center of the relationship.
How to defend against the triangle:
- Establish and maintain mutually agreed upon boundaries to other relationships of life. Frequently assess whether work, friends, family, recreation, or even children are intruding inappropriately into your marriage relationship.
- Make certain that you schedule time to be alone together. It is vital to carve out time just for yourselves.
- If you have children, analyze the time you are spending on your children and their extra-curricular activities and consider what might need to be discontinued.
Selvaggio provides guidance on love and matrimony in his new book, What the Bible Teaches About Marriage, ($14.99, Evangelical Press), available at www.evangelicalpress.org and www.Amazon.com. The book shares wisdom from his pastoral counseling experience and study of the Bible's "love poetry" and romance in the Song of Songs.